Guest post by Betsy Goldstein, Six O’Clock Scramble Content Manager
When my kids were much younger, we went to see a show at a local children’s theater. I don’t recall the name of the show but I remember the main character was a young girl who was totally cute and full of personality, but also very self-centered. There was one song she sang where she belted out “Everything should be about ME, ME, ME!” At the end of the show, there was a lesson conveyed about being aware of those around you and that the world simply does not revolve around you.
My kids are now 14 and 17 and every once in a while, when they are acting like they are the center of the universe, I smile and sing the “Me, Me, Me” part of that song. They quickly get the message and it acts as a humorous but direct reminder that they need to take responsibility for their behavior.
I think all parents raising kids today worry that their kids have a bit of the entitlement bug. None of us intend to raise entitled kids. It happens little by little in the name of love – we do things for them they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves, we rescue them when they should learn from their mistakes, we over-indulge them with wants rather than needs, we put them at the center of our world – which leads them to think the rest of the world revolves around them. All parents have probably made at least some of these mistakes.
Enter an incredibly valuable book by our favorite parenting expert: THE “ME, ME, ME” EPIDEMIC: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World by Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, Today Show contributor, and author of If I Have to Tell you One More Time…
Amy’s new book helps to address these entitlement issues with 35 simple to use tools that she refers to as The Un-Entitler Toolbox.
One tool, if it’s about “stuff” for example, is the “State What You Will Spend” tool – “I’m willing to pay $__ for a basic phone. If you want to raise the money to buy a smart phone and pay the data charges, you are welcome to do that.”
One by one, these tools will help you connect with your kids in a way you’ll both feel good about. As you use the tools, you’ll find that your kids become more capable and self-sufficient; they’ll learn how to manage money, be more grateful for what they have, and empathetic about the challenges and trials of others.
The book teaches parents how to use the tools and to start seeing success from the very first one you implement. These tools have been tested with Amy’s own family and with thousands of families around the world who art part of Amy’s Positive Parenting Solutions program. The book has been positively endorsed by a number of family and parenting experts and was even referred to as “the most important parenting book of the decade” by Dr. Meg Meeker, pediatrician, mother, and best-selling author.
If you worry that your kids might be getting a bit too self-involved or entitled, or you want to prevent that from happening, get this book! I think you’ll be very grateful that you did. I anticipate that this is one of those books that I will highlight, dog-ear, and refer back to over and over again.
Betsy has been a member of The Six O’Clock Scramble team for 7 years and helps Aviva with daily operations and content creation. She has two hungry teenage boys and one hungry husband and enjoys bringing her family around the dinner table for good food and quality family time.